Simple Take-Aways For New Parents From New Parents

After 4 Months Of Parenting

1. The baby is going to cry and that's ok

  • If your approach is to always have your baby be quiet and calm, you are going to have a difficult time. Be ok with the fact that sometimes your baby will cry and you won’t be able to make it stop. You just have to wait out the storm. It will all be ok.

2. It’s ok for you to worry. There is no escaping it because you will worry, trust me

  • You will worry about everything. Is she sleeping too much? Is she getting enough food? Does she look pale? Maybe she’s sick. And the list goes on and on. It’s ok to wonder about all that stuff, just don’t let it consume you.

3. Be A Team. It works better.

  • Work through everything together. When one of you feels stressed pick up the slack to help out.

4. Have friends or family babysit early

  • It’s good for them to have time with the baby. It’s good for you to have time away from the baby. It’s good for the baby to get used to other people and have time away from you. It’s just good all around.

5. Don’t use your baby as an excuse

  • This one might rub some people the wrong way but I need to say it. I’m not talking about using the baby to get out of going anywhere. I’m talking about using the baby to try and prove to yourself that you’re being held back in cleaning, or laundry, or especially fitness (a baby is the perfect weight to use. They get heavier as you get stronger for constant progression).

6. Don’t buy more than 8 outfits of each style for each time period (sleepers, onesies, pants, etc.)

  • You are going to be doing laundry once a week minimum so there is no need to go overboard on having too many outfits. We must have 30+ onesies and some of them Baby Bird outgrew before she even got to wear them. And definitely don’t buy too many “fancy” outfits, they may look cute but chances are you aren’t putting your baby in them very often.

7. Try and do the same outings that you did before the baby

  • You need to be able to get out of the house or you will go stir crazy. Even if it’s just for your weekly coffee date make sure you do it. And not only is it good for you but good for the baby to get used to that kind of outing.

We still go to our favourite spot, Cafe Haven (their Instagram), almost every week. That time is so important to Mama Bird and I, and pretty soon Baby Bird will love the cafe too :)

8. Take In As Much Advice As You Can...

  • ...Then pick and choose what will work best for you. There is a ton of great advice out there and lots of it contradicts someone else’s perspective. Your baby is unique and what worked for Baby A might not work for Baby B. Try out multiple strategies.

9. You will quickly find out what frustrates the hell out of you, but don’t let it ruin you

  • It’s going for it to happen (and it will) but just stay calm, there is nothing to fret over. You just need to find a strategy that works for you. To read the strategy that has worked best for me, click here.

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- Papa Bird