Life Lessons That Shaped Me

    There are certain moments in your life that change the way you think or act or move through life. Some could be the smallest of moments but have the biggest impact. Below are 3 major moments that shaped and continue to shape who I am.


Moment/Lesson:

Being An Only Child Until I Was 12, it was just everyday life, to have to entertain myself because there were no other siblings around. Although my parents were around like good parents are, there are still moments when you, as a kid, are by yourself.  So I played and created and had fun with anything that I had. Whether it was drawing/colouring or making lego stop-motion movies or playing with my Ninja Turtles, there was never a shortage of fun stuff to do.

How It Changed Me:

Today it is IMPOSSIBLE for me to get bored. No joke. You could ask Mama bird or any of my friends and family. There is way too much stuff to do to ever be overcome by boredom. I can write, if I can’t write, I watch a show, after I watch a show I can go for a workout, after I workout I can clean the house, if I’m done that I take the dogs for a walk. The list is endless.

How Can I Pass It On:

If Mama Bird and I only have one kid, then it’s easy for me to pass this lesson off. But being that Mama Bird and I are hoping to have more than one, I am going to try and make the kids learn to play by themselves, without the need for anyone else. I remember hearing about an acquaintance who couldn’t stand being alone because she had multiple siblings.  It was so bad that she would stay at other people’s houses or always have someone over to combat the feeling of being alone.  Like boredom, the inability to be alone can be a stifling trait, and I do not wish for my kids to develop either.


Moment/Lesson:

Losing A Toy As A Kid.  As I said before I was an only kid until I was 12 and so like most only children I was spoiled. I had a toy room. Also like many kids I was a little messy and so my Mom came up with a list of rules for the toy room. One of which was “Once you’re done playing with a toy, it goes back where it belongs.  If you don’t put it back, it will go into the garbage.” I didn’t pay much attention to it (because who actually believes their mom will throw their toys away) and sure enough I left some toys on the floor. So my Mom did exactly what she said she would do and she threw them out. Of course I cried and threw a fit but after a while I learned that it was my fault and so I never did it again.

How It Changed Me:

As soon I am done wearing my shoes they get cleaned and go right back in the box.

To this day if I use something, after I’m done with it, it goes right back where it came from. If I get up from the table, I push the chair back in, I don’t leave it out. If I write with a pen, I put the pen back in the holder after I’m done. I hang the jacket on the exact same hanger it came off of. While sometimes it might drive Mama Bird nuts I am so happy that I am this way. It feels so good to keep everything clean and organized (I know I’m a tad strange and I admit this does contribute to my OCD haha).

How Can I Pass It On:

Now my theory is that because Baby Bird has my DNA, she will have the same attention to organization. That’s the hope anyway. If that’s not the case then I will try to implement the same rules that my Mom placed on me. I know it might not work but I will do my best to help it along in the easiest, calmest, and smoothest way possible.  (If only Mama Bird, doesn’t rescue the toys from the garbage…)


Moment/Lesson:

Dating Games” should not be a thing. And when I say dating games I mean the stupid games that guys and girls play to test a relationship out. Like the wait 12 hours after you receive a text from them.  Or the endless mental mind games of playing “hard to catch.”  If you’re dating, you’ve been caught! Game over! These types of games are so ass backwards, they make a person hold back affection to someone they really like just to invoke a feeling of doubt in the other person with a hope that they will try harder to win their affection even more. This is a hurtful way to approach a possible great connection and boggles my mind why people do this.  But it’s more common than not. 

How It Changed Me:

After years of being hurt and trying to play the mind games to no success I just thought to myself, “this is so stupid. Why would I try and hide affection to a girl I really like? I will be exactly who I am and say how I’m feeling and play absolutely no games and if she doesn’t like it then she isn’t the right one.” I never want to make someone feel that kind of hurt and cause them to question whether or not I like them. Although I made the switch there were a couple attempts that didn’t work out but that’s ok because they weren’t meant to be. Soon after that Mama Bird and I met and she had the same mentality and boom life started a meteoric rise of happiness and love.  And this honesty is a HUGE part of why our relationship is so strong.

How Can I Pass It On:

My hope is that I can teach my kids to not fall into the trap when it comes time for them to date. Don’t treat someone like that unless you want to be treated like that. To never deprive themselves from a chance of love because you are playing a stupid “dating game.”  I hope to teach them to be honest and open about their feelings and expect that in return.


    Now I pass the question off to you, what major life lessons changed the way you are today? Why was it so impactful? And how can you pass along the information? Let me know in the comments below, I can’t wait to hear what you have to say.

- Papa Bird